September 26, 2017

Status Update: Mom, Stop Commenting On My Facebook Pictures

Libby Cornelssen ’12
Assistant Business Manager

We’ve all felt secondhand embarrassment for that guy whose parent, aunt, uncle – really any adult in their lives – excessively comments on their Facebook pictures or “likes” their status updates. I’m sure many of us have cringed while reading the “Wow! You’re really starting to look like a man” or “This reminds me of when you were rolling around in diapers” comments.

It is inevitable – you spend hours a day on this social networking website as your parents sit by, bored by their corporate emails. Next thing you know, they’re typing away and glued to their keyboards. Before you can even look over to see what the fuss is about, you have a new friend request: your mom.

Yes, it’s embarrassing and annoying. And it is technically a website directed towards high school students, college students, and occassionally graduate students. However, today’s adult generation has emerged onto this territory quickly, and certainly not unnoticed.

Some families have agreements about whether or not parents and their children will be “friends” on Facebook. Other kids just refuse to answer the ever-present “friend request”. The unlucky ones sit by as they watch their parents “friend” every student in their grade and write messages on their “wall” for all to see.

There should always be a certain level of privacy in the children’s relationships with the adults in their lives. The teenage years are not always full of events we want to share with our parents. Although it’s definitely acceptable for adults to enjoy themselves on Facebook along with a majority of the planet, there must remain a measure of privacy.

Without this, there is a risk of unwanted information falling into the hands of worried parents. For example: a picture, a status, or a wall-post. These snip-its of information give an insight for parents to gain knowledge of their teenager’s life. And unless the teenager has told their parents these private details of their daily life, this possession of knowledge is as invasive as a parent’s reading of their child’s diary.

However, a prominent issue that arises from this discussion is the lack of privacy given to internet users. Although it is important for parents to allow their children a certain level of distance and independence in their internet world, children should remember to censor themselves and their internet activity. The privacy parents allow children should not permit them to post whatever pictures or comments they want to. The danger of the Internet is that its accessibility allows users to post in less than a second, and leave their indelible mark forever on the internet world.

So yes, parents – please try to allow children some independence in those awkward teenage years. But importantly, kids: think before you post. Its important to remember the dangers and as you sign onto the universally recognizable www.facebook.com, remember to proceed with caution.

3 Comments

  1. First, I avoid this time waster as much as I can, so I don’t post too much for my mom to see.
    Second, my mom has no interest in friend-ing the people I know. I’m lucky enough that she respects my privacy. It’s probably a good idea for students to discuss this with their parents prior to accepting that friend request.
    Third, to my knowledge, she doesn’t even know how to find my profile anyways!

  2. As a student, I have no issue with my parents seeing my Facebook, I just thing it’s strange for them to comment on my wall or on my photos. Especially because I live in the same house as them–excessive Facebook comments really shouldn’t be how we communicate. I have nothing on my Facebook I’d like to hide, I just would prefer not to be “Facebook stalked” by somebody who I live with. It’s strange.

  3. Quite frankly, any kid that wants to block some things from their parents vision has the means provided to them by Facebook. There are privacy settings for every post and photo that you post on your profile. If you so choose, you could even effectively prevent your parents and/or other adult relatives from seeing your Wall in its entirety. Any child that doesn’t employ these methods is either merely trying to get their parents attention, has no idea that the means exist, or is just extremely foolish.

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